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Resistance is a person inwardly opposing change even though they say they want to change. It is often not a conscious stubbornness; the old state has a familiar safety, and a part of the person tries to protect this safety. Though resistance seems like an obstacle, it is in fact valuable information, because it shows what the person is afraid of losing. Instead of trying to break the resistance, the coach approaches it with curiosity: 'Are you wary of what this change will cost you?'. A resistance that is understood often begins to dissolve.