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Leading is a person, after building attunement with the other, gently carrying them in a new direction. In the NLP tradition it is taken up as the natural continuation of matching: first you join the other where they are, then you slowly invite them somewhere else. For example, a tense client is first accompanied at their own tempo, then the coach calms their own tone and draws the client too into that calm. Leading works only after attunement has been built; any leading done without a bond gives rise to resistance. The coach uses it not to push the client where they want them to go but to open space for them to unfold.