Self-management

Self-management is a person, after noticing their emotions, being able to steer their reaction consciously. It is the difference between feeling anger and sending a message with that anger. This skill is not suppressing the emotion but being able to place a small gap between reaction and response; in that gap, choice is born. The thought attributed to Viktor Frankl, "between stimulus and response there is a gap," points precisely to this skill. The coach helps the client notice this gap and widen it.