Adults Who Act Like...
CevvelaAdults Who Act Like...
Doğan Cüceloğlu · Remzi Kitabevi · 1994
Summary
"Adults Who Act 'As If'," is a book that offers an in-depth psychological analysis of human behavior and social relationships. The book addresses the “pretend” behaviors we learn from childhood and continue into adulthood. These behaviors involve individuals hiding their true feelings, thoughts, and sense of self in order to gain social acceptance or meet the expectations of others. The book examines how individuals develop these types of behaviors and how they persist into adulthood. The author discusses how these “pretend” behaviors suppress individuals’ authentic selves and how this situation can negatively affect their psychological well-being. By offering readers an inner journey, the book helps them recognize their own “pretend” behaviors and provides practical suggestions for living a more authentic life. The author guides individuals toward better self-understanding and helps them shed these false behaviors so they can lead healthier and happier lives in alignment with their true selves.
Quotes from Cevvela
“Kendi iç dünyasıyla dostluk kuramamış insan içindeki yalnızlığı başkalarıyla kurduğu ilişkilerle doldurmak ister.”
“Yani bu analar babalar, ezmek, kötülük yapmak için mi çocuk yapıyorlar?”
“Aşağı görülerek büyüyen ve kendi özbenliğinden utanan çocuk, diğerlerini aşağı görerek kendi utancını saklamaya çalışır. Başkalarını hor görmek ve aşağılamak onun karakterinin bir parçası haline gelebilir.”
“Mutlu yetişen insanlar, olayların çoğunda mutlu olunacak bir yön bulurlar. Mutsuz yetişen insanlar ise, olayların çoğunda mutsuz olunacak bir yön bulurlar. Onları mutlu edecek olayların sayısı yok denecek kadar azdır.”
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The book Adults Who Act "As If" offers psychologically rich content that takes an in-depth look at the fake behaviors individuals exhibit in pursuit of social acceptance and approval. The book encourages readers to question how much they act “as if” in their own lives and to realize how such behaviors hinder their personal growth. The author’s use of accessible language to present psychological concepts, supported by personal stories, makes the book both engaging and thought-provoking. However, the book occasionally features repetitions and the same points emphasized in different ways, which may be overwhelming for some readers. Nevertheless, “Adults Who Pretend” carries a powerful message: Stripping away our false selves to reach our authentic selves is vital for both our psychological well-being and our social relationships. The book offers practical suggestions that can help individuals gain awareness in this area and lead more authentic and fulfilling lives.